Air balloons and Affairs

What could air balloons and affairs possibly have to do with each other? I know it sounds silly…but I am going to attempt to explain my revelation and hope that maybe, just maybe, it will challenge you in this journey.

Let me tell you about air balloons.  We all have a role to play in this little allegory.  We are either: the balloon, flame, or anchor.  The balloon represents the dreamers, the entrepreneurs, the wild ones. The flame represents the ones who can follow through and lead strongly, the risk takers who weigh things out well, the fiery ones able to captivate a balloon.  The anchor represents the cornerstones. The ones who will never change if they don't have to and can continue to do the same things year after year without being bored. Each element is important in different ways.  There are complimentary parts and excruciatingly painful differences.  If a balloon and a flame marry, well, most likely there will be a long standing sense of adventure that is very satisfying.  If 2 air balloons marry, who's leading? If there are 2 anchors, they will possibly be happy together in their consistency with little change in their future.

But…if an air balloon marries an anchor, there is sure to be disaster ahead! The gigantic scarlet A lies in wait for the victim of…boredom; complacency; death to dreams! The air balloon is a dreamer and must have their dreams fed with fire.  When a couple first meets, dreaming is a natural state to that relationship.  What will the future look like? How many kids? Big dreams on living arrangements and the air balloon is soaring higher and higher and feels excited and compelled and most likely can't get enough of the flame lapping away inside the air ballon's dreams…but then one day, the anchor settles.  The air balloon is ok with standing still long enough to get ready for the next adventure.  The air balloon anticipates the continued journey through life with new views and perspectives and scenery that challenges and paints the eye with an array of images so stimulating that the air balloon is lost in the amazement. BUT the anchor has no intention on going anywhere…maybe ever.  Maybe.  But maybe not.  In time, the air balloon flat and uninspired begins to look desperately for a flame that will make it rise to it's former beauty.  Desperate, the air balloon will go to dark places, the places where affairs happen and steal your dreams and hopes and futures looking for the adventure that it was created for.  It's beauty, of course, never shines more vibrantly than when it is fully inflated by fire.

Never quit dreaming! Never quit feeding the flame of adventure.  Let your spouse be your place of comfort and your  home.  Never make a physical place become more important or critical than the person that you vowed to make first forever.